Sarah Harding has ''finally let go'' of her relationship with Tom Crane.
The Girls Aloud singer was rumoured to have reconciled with her ex-fiance recently, but she claims she now thinks of him as more of a ''brother'' than potential boyfriend material.
She said: ''Tom and I do speak - we're civil - and his family still consider me part of them, which means a lot to me. But as much as I care about him, I look back and I can see that we weren't compatible. There was a time, a little while after we split, when I would have loved to have got back with him because it was painful, it really was.
''But I feel now that I am at that point where I've finally let go. Now I think of Tom more like a brother.''
Sarah spent a stint in rehab in South Africa after the break-up, and she admits she is only now dealing with who she is and what is important to her.
She told Britain's HELLO! magazine: ''It's only very recently that I've started to understand who I am and what I want out of life and whist I used to think that you could have it all if you worked hard enough at it - the marriage, the babies, the fantastic career - I think the reality is that it is very difficult.''