Don't worry, mama, she's going to be alright. Once upon a time Evanescence's Amy Lee's mother was so concerned about the dark lyrical content of her daughter's music that she thought counseling was the only solution.

The raven-haired rocker admits that her mother was so worried when she saw some of her songwriting as a teenager that she suggested talking to a psychologist would help her fight repressed feelings of anger and pain.

The singer revealed how her mother confronted her about considering counseling. She said, "She heard me writing music in my room when I was a teenager. She was like, 'What are you singing?' and I read her some lyrics. She said, 'I wonder if you need to talk to somebody.'"

The singer also admits that she was very depressed during the time, but that she ultimately decided against taking any kind of medication to deal with her depression.

"I thought about taking antidepressants, but I think that takes your soul away," she said.

After much self-reflection, the star says she has come to realize that her rebellious dark teenage years were in response to the loss of her three-year old sister who died when she was only six.

"I was getting a perspective that most people don't get until they're adults. I started writing dramatic poetry when I was 10 - it's all about eternity and loneliness," she explained.

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READER COMMENTS
April 22, 2007 - 01:54PM
Amy Lee! THE BEST!! The QUEEN of goths! She rox harder than linkin park, and they rock pretty hard. *sigh* I wanna be just like Amy. ROCK ON!
April 24, 2007 - 03:49AM
i luv u amy.just luv u
April 25, 2007 - 04:27PM
I heart Amy Lee so what if your mom said that i am kind of dark but not much as i use to but i've gots youre cd it rocks
May 1, 2007 - 06:53PM
Amy Lee is my idol. She rocks!
May 2, 2007 - 07:04AM
Amy Lee rox nobody sings beta than her
May 7, 2007 - 06:36AM
i wish i could sing just like you
August 5, 2007 - 03:20PM - shawty
thats sad her lil sis passed away when she ws six! my friend passed away last month so i kno wut she went thru!
August 28, 2007 - 11:13AM
Amy Lee rocks, to the first person i think that linkin park is awesome too but amy is so better
August 29, 2007 - 01:59PM - Neko-chan
What was Amy's 3 year old sister named?
August 29, 2007 - 06:37PM - dead kid shortcake baker
i love amy lee's talents and music ability to move me to tears! i hope for evanescene music life to last longer than most! and for the ones that wonder what amy's late sister's name is. it's bonnie! but out of respect us 'real diehard' fans will never mention it! hopefully one day i will be able to work with amy hartzler!
September 10, 2007 - 03:25AM - Jaimi
Her sister's name was Beth

Just thought you'd like to know

xx
October 13, 2007 - 10:35PM - dead kid shortcake baker
sorry.no.it's bonnie.

just thought you'd like to know

x
October 17, 2007 - 12:25PM - Vomiit
What date is bonnie's birthday?
anyone got any pictures of her?

AMY LEE IS MY IDOL FOR LIFE
i want to be her she has got me a thru some hard times
and i love her for that
she has done more for me that Gerard Way and mychemical romance
all they do is constanly make money for themselves and everytime they talk they make you feel a apart of sumthing then exclude you all at the same time and Gerard is a compulsive indesicive pathetic excuse for a human being

that is why AMY LEE LEADS in first place she is head strong confident truthful down to earth n a all around talent
December 1, 2007 - 06:38AM - Vomiit
STOP TALKING ABOUT HER SHE HAS REMAINED NAMELESS IN WIKIPEDIA WHY CAN@T YOU GUYS BE AS RESPECTFUL?
December 4, 2007 - 01:00PM - vonna
amy lee really touches my soul, even in eygpt, (how come she remained nameless in wikipedia!)
December 8, 2007 - 12:05PM - madison smith
no i love amy lee she is the best. i even got to meet her when i meet her i was brethless and speach less. i used to take anitidepresents only because my mom took me into a doctor because of my bad thoughts
December 11, 2007 - 04:33PM - meld
woah guys calm down n yh amy lee's sister has been nameless for respect n stuff but i mean c'mon there's no need to argue lol also yh linkin park are good but i am totally obsessed with evanescence i love them to pieces especially amy omg she is so hot!!
December 23, 2007 - 12:58PM - me
How d any of yall no her name?
January 14, 2008 - 10:08AM - Vomiit
her name is Bonnie lee
un be knowns to yous
January 14, 2008 - 10:08AM - Vomiit
she was born in 1984
and died in 87

January 14, 2008 - 10:09AM - Vomiit
she wud have been 24 this yr
January 18, 2008 - 04:12AM - evropia
Amy Lee is my idol. She is something else i can hear her voice inside me when my grandmather was killed i was so angry.Then I heard evanescence she the queen of goths a rock faerie a fallen angel the dark princess of evanescence.
evanescence through my veins
January 22, 2008 - 01:42AM - Jenn
Her sisters name was Bonnie.
She died in 87 due to a drowning.
There are some very rare pictures
Of Amy and Bonnie on the net if you search hard enough.
The songs "Hello" and "Like You" are about her.
Amy does not sing them at concerts because
It's too very painful for her to sing about it.

"August 5, 2007 - 03:20PM - shawty
thats sad her lil sis passed away when she ws six! my friend passed away last month so i kno wut she went thru!"

And theres a difference. Thats your friend. Losing a sibling is much harder than losing your friend. Been there and done that. Along with many other people in the world.

January 24, 2008 - 05:29AM - Surrender Steph
i heard 'breathe no more' is also about her sister.
February 8, 2008 - 10:51AM - Vomiit
bonnie lee didnt drown you idiot she died of a unknown illness
she was born in 84 - died 87
bonnie was 3 amy was 6
and there are no pictures of amy & bonnie on the net unbe knowns to you they are probably ppl pretending or they are of carrie & amy her other sister lori too

get ur facts straight before you mouth off
JEN!
February 8, 2008 - 10:53AM - Vomiit
i'm a die hard fan
and i mention it, how did they get the name anyway?
February 11, 2008 - 01:22PM - Gabi
AMY LEE ROCKS!! i wish i looked like her!
shes beautiful! and she can sing! unlike hilary duff! now that girl is ugly!!
February 18, 2008 - 05:44AM - Zizi
Bonnie is her sister. Beth is her hairstylist and friend
March 21, 2008 - 09:16PM - melodie
amy lee is hella funny in person! i'm just glad she's happier now!
April 15, 2008 - 10:22AM - Biological Plague
I'm trying to do a graphic art project at my school on a celebrity life, where we have to get many pics of the celebrity from they're birth, to their present self. Well I can't seem to find ANY pics of my one and only celebrity Amy Lee as a child! And I refuse to do anyone else on this project! Please tell me where I can find any child pictures of Amy! Please, please, please!
May 15, 2008 - 10:09PM - becca
Amy Lee's little sister didn't drowned! She died of an unidentified illness at a young age!

all respects to Amy Lee and her Sister
-Becca
August 26, 2009 - 05:23AM
For anyone interested her sister Lori has a band named Solstice. She's fast becoming famous herself. u can search her name in google images and pics will come up. she looks alot like her sister. but i CANT find pictures of Carrie anywhere!
September 12, 2009 - 01:02PM - Hannah
Amy Lee's sister died at age 4 of unidentified illness. The song Hello and The only one was about her sister. Amy wrote her first song at age 11 just to say. I LOVE YOU AMY IM JUST LIKE YOU IN THE WAY YOU DRESS AND ALL I LOVE YOUR'E MUSIC AND I LISTEN TO IT EVERY DAY THANK YOU.
September 13, 2009 - 01:17PM - Me
-sigh- u guys she didnt die of an unknown illness. the illness was known but she didnt want anyone to know what it was
September 13, 2009 - 01:18PM - Me
And theres lots of pics of her and her sis
btw
September 13, 2009 - 01:19PM - Me
oh and btw linkin park isnt even close to amy. she puts more soul and emotion into what she sings
September 13, 2009 - 01:21PM - Me
oh and hannah.she was 3 when she dies, amy was 6. leave it alone.
September 13, 2009 - 01:22PM - Me
*AMY YOU ROCK*

See u guys.
September 13, 2009 - 01:23PM - Me
"I thought about taking antidepressants, but I think that takes your soul away," she said.

Direct Quote. She uses sould unlike linkin park
September 13, 2009 - 01:23PM - Me
oh wow.typo

soul.not sould
December 2, 2009 - 01:48PM - shannon
r.i.p bonnie i luv amy lee nd she has got the voice of an angel i started poetry to wen i was younger i kno how she feels my younger sisster died to.at birth.evanescence is not just a band tht means nothing her songs all mean something and have a meaning
December 29, 2009 - 10:52AM - snickers
RIP Amy Lee's sister. I have a lil sis too. I would relate to this song 4 the rest of my life if she died. :( BTW Amy said most of her songs are based on sorrow and loneliness b/c she misses her sis so much. I
January 1, 2010 - 11:40PM - Savannah
I love Amy Lee so much. Her songs are so emotional and powerful. Her voice is amazing :]
About Bonnie; I heard both stories - died by drowning and by an illness - but something else I heard that makes sense is she died by drowning into a bathtub due to a seizure, due to said unknown illness.
I don't know the real story, that's just what I heard.
January 27, 2010 - 05:00PM - Delores Kelly
Amy met some good people!
Was 'Like You' for her sister? or was it another song?
I knew she had a sister but i didnt know she died :( R.I.P. Bonnie.
I love Amy so much! She is the beautifulist woman in the world! Shes not hot because hot means nuthing!
I want to be in a band because of her and her voice.
Was she ever with Emilie Autumn?
I know she met her but was she with her? Hopefully :D

Love you so much Amy and always will! :)
January 31, 2010 - 12:44PM - ghost
pain doesn't hurt when it's all what you have ever felt and we used to be lost and lonly.so amy you are superwoman
February 9, 2010 - 02:18PM - Wolfy
Jenn, that's not fair. I lost my grandfather and it was equally as hard.
March 7, 2010 - 08:28AM - Rainy
I think Amy is an amazing person and singer. Jenn- it's just as hard loosing a close friend as it is a sibling/family. RIP Bonnie x
March 9, 2010 - 08:18AM - prima
i'm not trying to be mean, but i think that her sister is haunting me. Everytime i listen to the song "my immortal" everything goes cold, and i hear weird sounds, i hope that i am not disurbing her.
March 29, 2010 - 03:07PM - isunia122
aww thats sad her sister passed away yust like me my uncle passed and i never knew him even my two grandpas passed away and did not knew him i wasnt even borned
March 29, 2010 - 03:08PM - isunia122
can someone reply me
April 6, 2010 - 07:20PM - zach238
Her husband and her daughter stole from her parents
April 6, 2010 - 07:21PM - zach238
she must have to be upset with them
April 9, 2010 - 05:13PM - veronica
AMY;) U R STRONG,GR8;) ND AWESUM PERSON;) I LUV U 4 DA WOMEN U R;)
April 24, 2010 - 02:30PM - erika
i feel so bad for amy :( by the way her sisters name was bonnie AMY LEE IS THE BEST SINGER EVER I LOVE THE SONGS GOING UNDER,WAKE ME UP INSIDE,CALL ME WHEN YOUR SOBER,HELLO, AND EVERYBODYS FOOL.
May 29, 2010 - 04:05PM - temper
i would like to say, Amy Lee is my favorite female singer, and i like her more then my favorite male singer, ozzy, anyway, Amy is beautiful, of course, she also has the BEST voice i have ever heard, yes, her lyrics are great, i have been told by way too many people that i need to talk to someone, i write poems, and sometimes songs, not alot of people like what i write cause of the dark side of my writings, i dont know what to say other then how much Amy has helped me, i also would like to say to everyone, Amy does not like people talking about her late sister, thats why she never talks about her, i dont know what her sisters name really is, i have heard alot of different guesses, but, thats it, i will not try to find anything on her, cause Amy does not want everyone in the world to know everything about her personal life, she is also a person,
June 11, 2010 - 03:37AM - mee
Jenn, I have lost my father, grandfather, grandmother and cousin. It was equally hard every time. Maybe you just don't understand.

But I love Amy Lee. Her voice is incredible and the lyrics are like my life story. I can relate to every song.
June 11, 2010 - 03:51AM - mee
I'm really sorry if this makes me sound rude, disrespectful and naive, but I still don't understand why not naming a desceased person is respectful. But I do understand why she doesn't talk about it.

My father passed away when I was 7, my grandfather and grandmother in a car crash when I was 4 and I lost my only cousin last year.

R.I.P
June 16, 2010 - 12:39AM
I think the reason for it being respectful to not name her sister is because Amy dosn't like people using her sisters name because it upsets her.
June 23, 2010 - 12:46AM - macie& ariel
your our idol we know almost all your song we love them were your bigest fans there could be more say but what else is there you should know one thing you got a voice and your beautiful..

later
June 30, 2010 - 05:43PM
i luv evanescence's music! a lot of it expresses how i feel. and it all makes sense to me. i agree with the people who say stop talking about her sister. 1. it's depresseing and it doesn't help to have people talking about it. 2. she's still a person and people don't like having personal information talked about. and 3. it doesn't have anything to do with us, none of our buisness. and i can understand loss of family members. and it's not always just because they died, it hurts just as much when you can't be with family members or friends anymore for various reasons.
July 12, 2010 - 07:12PM - alyssa
the way enanesence sings and the lyrics relate to the way i feel inside i cant exsplain it but her songs pretty much exsplain me and how my life is i have had three sisters be born and 2 or 3 weeks later they died they died after i got so atached to them but i still love them R.I.P MY THREE LITTLE SISTERS
July 15, 2010 - 01:54PM - Carrie
hey LORI is the name and i no that cuz im her sister carrie and amys sis too by the way evanescence is working on a new album! and alyssa im sorry 2 hear that i would ask u wut happened but thats personal but if its okay with u i would like 2 no thanx and amy says hi and thanx 4 all these nice comments! :) bye (rob our bro says hi 2)
September 2, 2010 - 05:18PM - Min
You people are sick, talking about that. it was her sister, come on!! Just cos someone is famous it does not give you the right to pry into their lives. I am a huge Amy fan but dat stuff is personal. what difference will it make to u if you knew aboiut it? it wont change ur life or ur view on her.Thats being offensively intrusive. if u liked her u wud respect that. just because u admire someone it doesnt give u d right to know every intimate detail. thats the difference between liking someone and being obsessed with someone.
October 30, 2010 - 02:12AM - David
It's funny how she says she refused to take couseling but then the next year she married her husband who was a psychologist. I bet she really lets all her tears and fears come out for him which is a good thing if he records everything then maybe one day we would know the real truth of Amy Lee.
November 25, 2010 - 05:04PM - love is a killing dream
I LOVE u !

Hey wen i was sad you made my first tear. love :)
UR my IDOL!
January 6, 2011 - 02:41AM - julie
Bonnie Lee died at age of 3 from an illness. Amy does not want to say much about it because she said she does not want crazed fans trying to find her sisters grave . There is a video on youtube about Amy Lee's past life and there are photo's of her and Bonnie together in the video. I saw it and they are very cute as kids. The songs 'Hello' and 'Like You' are about her sister's death. The song 'My Immortal' is not, it was written by Ben Moody an ex band memeber. She wrote the songs as a way of dealing with the pain.
January 27, 2011 - 06:55AM - Heather
I can relate to her bcuz I had a twin sister named Haley but when she was born she was dead on my bday I'm sad cuz it's her bday too sometimes I will have flashbacks of her. I asked my mom if she was a feternal twin or identical and shes an identical twin when I cry I look up in the sky and wave to her also when I'm sad I can feel the wind moving wen I say to her show me a sign ur listening to me R.I.P Haley I miss you!!
February 22, 2011 - 02:54AM - Eszty
Amy is great! I can often really relate to her song texts. Okay, my mum worries a lot about me two because I'm a goth and usually wear black. But it's just a way of thinking. I remember how worried she once was when she found out I went to the cemetary for no reason at all.
I think what people don't like about us goths is that we think a lot about things others find embarrassing and sad. But we can't just sweap the thoughts of death and loneliness under the carpet. However unpleasnat they are they are part of life.
As I write this comment I'm listening to my favourite Evanescence song: Like You. I cryed when I translated the lyrics into my own language. It's beautiful.

R.I.P. Bonnie Lee!
February 24, 2011 - 06:51AM - Megan
Amy you are my absolute idol! ur an ispiration!!
March 4, 2011 - 03:43PM - Bethanni
Amy Lee i love you so much! you are so inspirational to me, and i feel that i understand all the meanings behind your songs.
Jenn - I lost my Mum, Dad, 2 of my 3 sisters, cousin, auntie and uncle. it was more painful than you could imagine.
R.I.P Bonnie!
and R.I.P Savannah, Emilettia (My Sisters), Maizi (My Cousin), Mum, Dad, Auntie Amelia and Uncle Stephen.
I MISS YOU!
you are my rolemodel Amy! please, never stop singing! us diehard fans will never leave your side!
March 5, 2011 - 09:41AM - Scarlettia
i am Bethanni's sister. i feel so sorry for you Amy-Lee! you are amazing, and my fave song is the song 'Hello'. Whenever i talk to Emilettia, Savannah, Maizi, Mum, Dad, Auntie Amelia and Uncle Stephen, i hear a faint 'i love you' coming from above. Bethanni hears it too, she said. we miss you like crazy Em. you were, are, and always will be everything to us Savii. Maiz, no other cousin in the world compares to you. EVER. Mum, Dad, you are the best people we ever met, and all now we can do it hope and pray for you to have a happy afterlife (We do that with respect). Auntie Amelia and Uncle Stephen, you were and still are our guide through life, the traits we learned are from you both, we love you, and we are living our lives for you.
R.I.P i love you all to my death.
March 19, 2011 - 07:44AM - sarah
@Jenn
Losing a friend is pretty effing hard too. I lost my 2 best friends. One when I was eight, to a car accident, and the other - my best friend in the entire world who I had known since I was born and who was practically my sister - when I was ten, to a brain tumour. Don't start saying it's "not hard" to lose a friend. You shouldn't make judgements on things like that. It may not have been hard for you but it was heartbreaking for me, and still is 6-8 years later.
April 4, 2011 - 06:58PM - Jan
Hm yeah her music is inspiring. People constantly worry about me because of my thoughts. At first I thought I was a loner especially since there are hardly any other black people such as myself who enjoy this genre of music.But now all of a sudden I'm seeing more and more afircan americans and other kids at my school into this type of amazing music no.passion. And everytime I ask what's there fav band it's the all inspiring EVANESCENCE!
April 4, 2011 - 07:03PM - Jan
Sorry it's who are into this type of music just a simple mistake(comment above). At my school the only thing any of the kids listen to is uggh Waka Flaka.and Hannah Montana.it's frustrating but at the end of the day I still have Evanescence as my aid for music. They have to be the most inspirational band ever! Just luv their music, they actually have rhythm and emotion which todays music does not have!
WHAT DO YOU THINK?